Penetrating that group of friends, playing “the game” in order to get to your “target girl” is hard work, and sometimes does not work if you don’t speak Spanish well enough for her to understand.
The “gringo effect” is the reaction a foreign guy gets from girls here in Medellin.
It is an immediate sense of curiosity that some Colombian women have upon meeting a foreigner.
At first glance, Medellin women do not perceive me as a foreigner due to the way I look.
So I do not have that instant “gringo effect” on them.
I’ve been here 5 years and I’m still floored at some of the women in my gym!
On the street, I am usually attracted to women who look as if they are on their way to an office job.
Generally, these women will be dressed and fashionable.
I can tell they are going to work because normally they will have a badge around their neck or pinned to their shirt or pants.
More often than not I’m not even interested in talking to the girl; I just want to dance and have fun. Amazingly, when I do that, women are more attracted than when I start talking to them while dancing.
A certain amount of negligence after making an impression piques a woman’s interest, it is the whole psychological framework of the type of women who wants a strong man (check out this great article on Psychology Today by Gina Barreca, Ph.