In a previous article, I put forward the notion that individuals were not "afraid" to date—rather they simply did not have sufficient incentive to do so (see here).
We are all motivated to seek out rewards and avoid punishments (Skinner, 1974).
The men that I speak with (and who commented on my last post) lament about being in a "no win situation" in modern dating.
If they follow what society tells them to do, they often end up "good guys" who are taken advantage of, mistreated, and disrespected.
Every first date ends with a woman asking herself just one question: Is there any chance that you might be boyfriend material?
In this article, David De Angelo reveals the three secret “tests” every woman uses (usually without even realizing it) to see if you have “relationship potential.” When it comes to building great relationships with women, some guys have to learn the hard wayand I was one of them.But when it comes to whether she’ll see you as boyfriend material, thoughtfulness takes on a whole other meaning.It’s your ability to pay attention to her in unexpected ways — at unexpected times — because it’s genuinely in your heart to do it.Of course, thoughtfulness means delivering attention and interest…but in heartfelt ways that she can’t predict, at the times she needs it most.Basically, instead of being over the top with flashy gifts, expensive dinners, and obvious compliments, true thoughtfulness is telling her that you were thinking of her today when she wasn’t around(by the way…After a lot of dates with a lot of women, I noticed two things: #1: It takes a special set of skills and insights to pass a woman’s tests and graduate from first-dater to “boyfriend material,” the kind of man she wants to share fulfilling, long-term intimacy with.#2: The longer I continued to fail these tests, the more I started to feel like something wonderful was missing from my life — also known as having a great GIRLFRIEND.That in mind, here come the three secret “tests” that every woman uses (even if she doesn’t realize it) to determine whether you are boyfriend material: Test #1: Are You Present?When it comes to first dates, most guys waste precious time and opportunities with great women by not actually “being there” at all.When rewards outweigh punishment, people perform behaviors.When punishments weight more heavily, people avoid those same behaviors.