But my question remains – am I being ridiculous in expecting a partner who is at least on the SAME financial and career playing field as me? It is not the first time that I have come across the attitude that career women deserve to be alone if they don’t want to date men without any education, or men a generation older, or the obese. Alas, men don’t care if you’re taller, richer, smarter, or funnier. Which is why men can date ANYONE – regardless of education, income, and height – while many women can only date 1 in 1000 men who are 6 feet tall, with a masters degree and a 0,000 income.I am just wondering how many men really think like this. So are some men unrealistic in thinking that they deserve a chance with you? Are they also correct in pointing out that they are open to a lot more women than you are open to men, and this may hinder your ability to find lasting love? To your original question, no one is saying (apart from the jilted men) that you deserve to be alone.Why he was there, I do not know, as he made it clear that he was not really looking to date anyone.He did however buy me a drink in the bar afterwards and asked me what I thought of the event.I am just wondering how many other men think like this?For me, it seems plain common sense that, while professional women with masters degrees may be compatible with men in less successful professions, the guy that left school with no qualifications to work in the launderette is highly unlikely to be a good fit.However, they do not want to be considered as cash cows or walking ATMs.The guy may also wonder if the girl is "interested", meaning that as soon as the money flow stops, the girl will walk away without any regrets.Should you help her when she or a member of her family gets sick, and to what extent?The situation faced by many expats is that they don't mind paying, because they understand that the girl cannot afford some expenses that are clearly part of the "expat lifestyle".