The Office of Health Promotion provides a lending library of self-help books, audiotapes, videocassettes, and brochures on a variety of topics.
"Healthy Romantic Relationships During College" is based on an audiotape script originally developed by The University of Texas at Austin.
While the early months of a relationship can feel effortless and exciting, successful long-term relationships involve ongoing effort and compromise by both partners.
Building healthy patterns early in your relationship can establish a solid foundation for the long run.
Families may offer well-intentioned advice about your relationship or your partner.
It's important that the two of you discuss and agree on how you want to respond to differing family values and support one another in the face of what can be very intense "suggestions" from family. There are some people who seem to believe that "I have to give up all my friends unless my partner likes them as much as I do." Giving up friends is not healthy for you or the relationship, except in circumstances where your friends pressure you to participate in activities that are damaging to yourself and the relationship.
You might ask: "Which of my friends do you enjoy seeing and which ones would you rather I see alone or at other times when I'm not with you?
" If you are feeling distressed about a relationship, you may wish to consider individual or couples counseling.
Check out with your partner what time alone means to him or her, and share your feelings about what you need from the relationship in terms of time together.
Demanding what you want, regardless of your partner's needs, usually ends up driving your partner away, so work on reaching a compromise. For many students, families remain an important source of emotional, if not financial, support during their years at the university.