If they love a certain stand-up comic, use the beginning of one of their jokes (Google is your friend at times like these).
Create something that’s witty and warm and demonstrates you’ve read their profile, as opposed to just flicking through their photos. Research has shown that people warm towards hearing their own name in conversation.
Plus, if rejection happens, it’s not as personal or awkward (usually).
Here’s the deal with the messaging thing: a lot of people have their own theories on how it works, what works best, etc. Others try “negging.” Some send long messages about their background and their overall philosophy and what they’re currently doing with their lives.
This past week alone I’ve gotten enough poorly-executed messages to make me want to curl up in a ball of being-alone I try not to lose hope that there can be some genuine connections made through meeting someone on of the internet. I’ve even made several lasting friends from some of my experiences.
The thing is, when it comes to sending messages many people freak out.
If your profile is half-finished, or Arctic in its brevity, or doesn’t include photos, most likely you won’t receive a reply.
For more advice, check out our top tips for writing your online dating profile. Again, don’t panic – it doesn’t have to be the best, most perfect subject line in the history of dating sites. If your match mentions loving a specific film, use a quote from it as your subject.
I’ve been doing the whole online dating thing on and off for years now and, let me just say, I’ve had the entire range of good, bad, and ugly messages arrive in my inbox.
There was a time I even created a blog to showcase some of the best of the worst because I felt the world should share in the horror with me.