We’re all saying these things because we think that’s what others want to hear, but the more you disguise yourself, the less chance you have of finding someone who’s totally into what you are into.
Author Laura Zinn opines, and I agree, “Be exactly who you are, though this means you’ll get rejected.” That is, until the person who loves everything about you comes along!
Then he responds, and you jump right into a textual relationship.
What are the chances you’ll actually meet in real life? I know talking on the phone is soooooo last century, but we’re all about making sacrifices to achieve a heart’s desire.
However, if you spent some time getting to know them and have built a foundation of mutual respect and, hopefully, interest, then you can start to share more controversial topics. However, when you’re online, you have plenty of time to think about your message. You are a human being first and a potential mate second. You know their real name and possibly their social media handles.
On every topic that exists, I have some friends on one side and some on another. Be respectful, be engaging, and be excited to meet them. This doesn’t mean you now can blast invites over Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, Instagram, Kik, Whats App, Tumblr, Linked In, or You Tube.
However, a lot of people aren’t using online dating to their best benefit.
One of my recent female clients had only two pictures up, and both were professional shots. It suggests that this is the best she could possibly look, and, in fact, she might be much less attractive.
I think three back-and-forths (six total emails) is the sweet spot before exchanging numbers or setting up a date, but I’ll allow four for those nervous types. You want to find out sooner rather than later if this person does or does not mesh with you, so get out there and meet them.
Also, many people are using online dating as a form of entertainment.