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It is, putting it gently, myopic to expect marriage equality alone to have solved, in less than two years, the mental health challenges of a generation of gay men raised in a cultural climate in which we were political punching bags and in the shadow of the AIDS epidemic—an epidemic that the article does not acknowledge is I grew up gay in a liberal Massachusetts town during the height of the fight for marriage equality and its backlash.

It is, putting it gently, myopic to expect marriage equality alone to have solved, in less than two years, the mental health challenges of a generation of gay men raised in a cultural climate in which we were political punching bags and in the shadow of the AIDS epidemic—an epidemic that the article does not acknowledge is I grew up gay in a liberal Massachusetts town during the height of the fight for marriage equality and its backlash.

They enforce the social rules of a certain kind of urban gay space, implicitly or sometimes explicitly excluding other types of gays (and almost all queer people) who don’t fit their strange standards.

They are the donors and board members of the big gay nonprofits, the setters of the mainstream gay agenda.

Gay people have a rich tradition of telling stories about our lives, our loneliness, our sex, our cultures.

We do it in fiction and poetry, in films and theory.

he's had more bfs prior to that but, you see what I mean. I wonder if I would be happy enough in a relationship or if I am in shit too deep already by now.

also I have a gym friend who felt the same when he was around 22, now he's happy with a bf.Mental health and substance abuse issues cut across the entire queer community, and A-gays are arguably best-situated to deal with them; but even putting that aside, the blind spots of this article are enormous.Except for one man who is Asian-American, all of Hobbes’ sources appear to be white and live in high-rent cities.At this point I should not be too young to be able to form a relationship but I just can't. You're the one posting but you're the one saying positive things to anyone that posted; this should be about you not us.Tales are told that Tinder there is some few people wanting dates unlike grindr that is more photos of abs and not faces ever. It's a mix of thinking that I'm perfect and when I fail I go back to being perfect by getting the blame, with never have played outside of the sandbox so to keep a good record I don't play.At their best, queer ideas about romance could help undo (for everyone) the poisonous idea that long-term unbroken monogamy is the only way to happiness. This is what happens when a civil rights movement values the banality of traditional romance over proud assertions of individual and collective identity, when the desire to enter a system supersedes the desire to change it.As an Asian-American friend said to me, not long after the And then, of course, there’s the issue of compounding stressors: Many minority groups beyond gays face daily indignities and traumas, often magnified by physical and economic attacks.It took years of studying the history of queer identities and movements for my views on marriage to become complicated, queered: While I’m glad we won it, marriage does not have the power to magically erase our difference or to make people feel whole.An uncomfortable byproduct of the monomaniacal quest for marriage equality has been the creation of a new form of minority stress—the stress of the gay man who does not find a husband, or who doesn’t want one, or maybe wants two, and therefore cannot participate in this new and strange celebration of conservative values we’ve constructed as the ultimate goal of gay life.When I first came out I thought I would finally feel accepted into a community but that never happened. Maybe Im just young, but I dont even want to meet anybody. And whenever I do feel happy it strucks me so hard that it seems fake and wrong to feel that.As time wore on I dated but never really found anyone I connected with and most men seemed to want sex and no commitment. Maybe its my lousy upbringing and not know what real love is ( both my parents hated each other and my mom didn't want kids but had them anyhow ) I know I may be making excuses but I'm a good looking guy... my friends are in relationships and have forgotten me. Thinking about walking over to the bridge today and jumping off. Here is a short research on depression, I have found it somewhat interesting: Early Life Stress, Adolescent Depression And Impaired Reward Circuits I feel exactly the same.

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