Most of us, at some point in our lives, have heard a great piece of advice about love.
Perhaps it's something from your mother or father, a grandparent, a mentor, a friend, something you've read -- a piece of advice that has stayed with you and has helped you in finding love, understanding love or staying in love.
Even so, the advice has stuck in my head all these years, and I still recite it to single friends who seem to have trouble making romantic relationships stick.
The point is not that you should act arrogantly or as if entitled, but that, if you act as if you have value in the world, others are more likely to treat you that way.
And yet the only thing that's changed is the relationship you have with yourself. In television and film, the primary conversations that woman have revolve around men, dating men or how to better date men. Millions to billions of dollars are spent on how to sell a costumer something they don't need to buy, or portray an image they don't necessarily want to subscribe to.
I have been wracking my brain about this idea of "Mr. One thing that has been on my mind lately is the way media, television and film portray women. Male characters' conversations are often about catching bad guys. When I was a young person and having a hard time dating, my mother would say, "You have to kiss a lot of frogs in order to find your Prince." I have come to a point in my life where I realize that she was right, but, as corny as it may sound, the Prince is me.
Sometimes you're so close, the two of you, your orbits are in synch, and sometimes you move so far away from each other, you feel you'll never reconnect, never reenter each other's orbits, you're too far apart. I never forgot this advice; we moved far away from each other many times, and I waited it out, and sure enough, we came back into synch again.
The trick to marriage is having faith in the reconnection, waiting for the inevitable closeness again." This was in 1994. And then at the end, we moved too far apart to ever reenter each other's orbits, out of each other's fields of gravity, and that's when I knew it was over. The best advice about love I got from my father, Michael Rockland.
She's talking about her experience as a single woman artist nearing 50, but it's a great reminder for all of us, no matter our relationship status or age.
Not only can love be found everywhere -- in an idea, an experience, a lover, a friend, etc.