Do you have enough information to know that you could not marry this man?If a man initiates with you, ladies, think and pray and seek counsel before simply dismissing him.From there, you obviously need a response from the woman to know whether or not things will go any further.
Ladies, as uncomfortable as this may sound for the guys, you might be in a difficult position here as well, depending on how well you know the man initiating with you. Then I'd ask, have you had any chance at all to see him in group settings, or do you know him by reputation?
If you don't have even information at that level, feel free to tell him that you want some time to think and pray about it (that is, if you're not sure at that point that you're not interested).
If you know the man well or at least better than what I've just described, but you are not sure whether you are interested in him, I'd encourage you to at least take some time to get to know him before giving an unequivocal "no." Keep in mind that this is different from feigning interest when there isn't any.
There are instances in which you can be genuinely unsure about a guy but still move forward this far.
This is not the only way the early part of a relationship might look.
These are simply suggested applications of biblical principles.
Let me say it again: We're trying to make intentions clear, here, not asking anyone to commit to go the distance with no information.
There are biblical and unbiblical reasons for a man to initiate with a woman, and there are biblical and unbiblical reasons for turning a man down.
If nothing else, treating men who initiate well will encourage other men to initiate.
If we are concerned about defrauding one another (again, this idea applies to both genders but particularly to the men as the initiators), another one of the early issues to address is how much and what kind of time couples spend together.