It’s not as easy as going up to someone and offer them a drink or ask them to dance.
Many people see this as too forward and will get defensive if they are approached in this way.
Many people regard those who only hang out in the bar as suspicious*. If you catch somebody’s eye, and the two of you look at each other for more than a second, then you’re good to start dancing with each other (at this point, you don’t even have to ask about the dance, you both know it’s coming).
From the moment the two of you start dancing, the rules aren’t as strict as before.
Other women will get most - if not all - of the "easy" attention from men, so you need to narrow your focus and seek attention only from the men that matter.
In order to be effective, you need to be honest with yourself and filter out the men who will waste your time - even when you are tempted by your emotions, pride or biology to do otherwise.Therefore, various aspects of these three stages - or the components of each one - are more or less important at different times in a woman's life.As a girl in your thirties, you are past or moving out of your most eligible years, and should adapt your game accordingly.It’s important to keep track of whether he ends his text messages with meaning ”kiss”.Eventually you’ll have another date, usually at the cinema, and if that goes well too, you’ll have what constitutes a relationship.He’d never assume that you won’t be able to get over that puddle of water without his help.Of course, this gives a generalized picture, and I’ve heard of people meeting each other in other ways (Hannes and I have a different story, I’ll tell you some other time).So how do people approach one another when they go out?If you want to meet someone, you’d better make your way to the dance floor.Try not to get offended or assume that he’s not into you if he doesn’t bring you flowers, if he doesn’t hold the door up for you, if he doesn’t pay for the movie or if he doesn’t offer to walk you home.Instead, he will always respect you and he will never assume that you are weak or bad at something just because you’re a girl.