In October 2015, on the verge of taking a break from dating, I met someone who would change my life forever in the most wonderful way.
After many messages on Oasis, we exchanged phone numbers and talked for 2 hours a day every day for a week before he had the courage to ask me out for a coffee.
If you think you are being scammed, go to this site and browse all the photos to see if the person you are communicating has a photo on this site. However they also use photos taken from profiles of other people on dating sites, so remember that the photos that scammers use are not photos of themselves - they are photos of innocent victims.
They also use many aliases, emails, photos, gender, age and sexual orientation in order to cast their net to catch as many victims as possible.
They often pretend to be foreign specialists [from the US, UK or Canada, but can be any European country]temporarily working in Nigeria or other African country.
A slight twist is is when the scammer pretends to live in the same country as the victim, and once a relationship has developed, then advise they are required to go to a west African country on an assignment.
The scammers choose chat rooms and dating sites because the person in love offers the chance of the biggest payoffs.
The Nigerian dating scams are often not easy to detect as the scammers are often highly educated, have exceptional patience and they do their homework!
Some of the sophisticated scammers send cheap presents such as flowers or candy [from stolen credit cards] to capture the hearts of lonely women. They either advise that their employer pays them with Money Orders and they can't cash them in Nigeria or are having trouble cashing them.
Then they convince their soul mates to bank them into their bank account and then wire them the money via Western Union.