It’s completely fair to ask if he sees long-term potential in the relationship, his view on commitment and marriage, and other “big picture” questions.
It’s natural that the speed of relationships progress as a function of many factors, one of them being age. On average however, dating in the later 20s to early 30s tends to make it somewhat more socially acceptable to ask these more serious questions earlier on. If you think he’s not emotionally invested, there is a good chance he’s not.
No one is there to witness it when your boyfriend is putting you down, treating you poorly, or being disrespectful.
And seeing through the rose-colored glasses of love, you don’t see any differently either. Which is why you need someone to help check your vision.
Different people will have a different comfort level with opening up or need more time. But you can also tell when one is avoiding these topics altogether.
While there is a natural rhyme and rhythm to when one meets friends, family and others in the course of a relationship, there can also be a level of exclusivity that can feel stifling or unbalanced. In fact, overly exclusive relationships where partners don’t want to include others are a hallmark characteristic of abusive relationships.
Many times in the heat of an argument one partner might throw out the “let’s end it now” card. At their most basic level, they involve setting your ego aside.
While it’s ultimately a power move, see your partner’s reaction. Apologies aren’t actually about who is right and who is wrong.
Whether it’s the holiday season or Valentine’s Day or the magic of 4th of July fireworks, we know it’s the shared moments that are most special.
Yet this desire can cloud our judgment and lead to poor choices.