I’m really open to everything you say, Evan, but I never meet any good men! It’s certainly frustrating to want to prioritize your love life, but not have the opportunity to meet any new men on a day-to-day basis. The reason you’re single is simply that you haven’t met the right guy – and yet you have no idea where he’s coming along. Before you tune out or run away screaming, hear me out. In fact, any evidence that I provide that contradicts you is only going to make you believe in your original premise more. Yes, you’re hardwired to be stubborn and, as such, you can easily fall victim to “the confirmation bias”, which seeks out information which only reaffirms what you already believe (biting my tongue on the obvious Fox News joke…)So, if you have dated online and discovered the following:• Men sometimes lie. You think that 90% of men online are “wrong” for you. But so are 90% of men in bars, on buses, or in Starbucks.
This lack of opportunity, above all, is the main reason that you’re not in love now. If you have high standards, MOST men are not going to be to your liking. I’m not a corporate shill for the online dating industry.
And if you concluded that, because of those observations, you weren’t inclined to try online dating again, you’d have plenty of evidence to support yourself. So let’s keep on going with your other misconceptions about online dating: You dated online for 3 months and didn’t find love? You’ve been in love 3 times in 40 years – why would you think you should it in 90 days on JDate? It’s not because you have no integrity or are a congenital liar.
It means you have a deep-seated bias against online dating, so that anything I say which contradicts you is just going to irk you more. Anything to get you outside your comfort zone, to get you to see the world through a different, more empowering lens.
But all the dating advice in the world is useless if you’re not actually dating regularly!
If you’ve resisted online dating because of your preconceived notions about how it is, I assure you, it’s because you’ve never tried it my way.
In fact, on some websites, it’s one of the first things a woman sees in her search results.
So if you’re interested in optimizing your profile and beating out the competition right off the bat, a catchy dating headline is absolutely essential to piquing a woman’s interest and getting her to click on your profile instead of the other guy’s.
On POF and Millionaire Match, headlines are almost impossible to miss in her search results, so yours needs to make a good first impression.
Here’s what search results look like on Millionaire Match: See how that headline is the first thing you see?