If you’re a Fallback Girl, they’ll slink back to you in between…But ultimately, there is no absolute answer to the question of ‘Why her and not me?
A new woman that’s not wisened up to his him yet is fresh meat but eventually, when she expects too much or sees through him, he’ll be revealing his usual self.
This is why I keep telling women to stop trying to raise men from the ground up and change them because the overwhelming likelihood is that it’s the NEXT woman that profits from your rennovation whilst you sit there in negative equity!
There are variations of this common question being asked around this site.
The common scenarios are: You’ve broken up with him and now he’s dating someone else and they look so happy together.
although I will take this opportunity to note that if you’re discussing a library and still dropping the first ‘R', there’s a very good chance that your friends and/or colleagues are laughing at you behind your back.
I won’t trouble you with a lecture covering how some of the words you use actually aren’t words at all.
There is no ‘logic’ to why these men do what they do but one thing that is at the heart of it is that if you are a woman that accepts poor behaviour from a man because she thinks it shows how much she loves him and how willing she is to make the relationship work, you only get penalised for it because the types of men that behave in this manner and watch you accept it recognise that you can’t respect or love yourself enough if you put up with their behaviour.
On some level they realise that if you want them, something be right.
But eventually, lukewarm or downright cold kicks in.
Again because it is about him, just like when we knee-jerk our way into dating and quickly start dating another guy or choose an opposite and end up with a ‘nice guy’ that we eventually admit bores us or we claim is ‘too nice’, men do have their own insecurities.