Dating app and site Zoosk did a little research on their users and happened upon an interesting truth: 87% of good-looking guys with compelling profiles were striking out with women because they were sending the same generic message to multiple people.We all know when we’re getting a boilerplate email from a company that wants our business, and similarly, people can sniff out a little Control C/Control V action just as easily.
For instance: “I don’t really understand what’s going on in While saying a brief and generic “Hey” or ”How’s your Tuesday going?
” is highly unlikely to intrigue her, going the other way and composing a very long and detailed message isn’t much better.
Use features like this to ensure that a potential love match doesn’t get lost in the shuffle; take care of your business, and then check back, since it’s far better to initiate a chat when you’re ready to meet.
And speaking of Ok Cupid, it’s one of the best dating apps if you’re over 40 (but it’s good for all ages, too, don’t worry).
You message her because you’re eager to make a connection, and things are going great.
So great, in fact, that she expresses an interest in meeting up with you.
The problem: You have an out-of-town wedding, then a business trip, then your parents are staying with you for a few days, and it’s going to be a couple weeks before you’re able to meet. You probably shouldn’t have messaged her in the first place.
While this note seemingly runs counter to the one before it, it makes perfect sense: It’s not wise to start something you won’t be able to pursue in person for a while.
You run the risk of running out of messaging charm—or more likely, her attention will be taken be someone who’s actually around.
Luckily, apps like Ok Cupid allow you to keep track of people you like.